So here's a brief backstory. August became a 'family' friend when he was seriously unwell and through that friendship, a relationship with Jada was formed. Fast forward, both parties have expressed their views about what happened.....
Jada infamously called (words to the effect) it an 'Entanglement and I just wanted to feel better' and August called it 'I can die happy knowing that Ifullygave myself to someone.'
Wow! These descriptions so different aren't they? What does this mean?
I have a theory about this.
Now you may be thinking, what does this have to do with me being a coach helping professional women to use their God-given gift?
Well, your natural personality dictates your behaviour and your decisions. It subconsciously informs everything you do before you do it....for example...how you spend, how you interact with others...the list goes on. I can help you find out about these things using a scientifically proven method.
However, my theory about August and Jada is if they had a deeper understanding of who they were and how they attach (not interact) to others, they would have identified early on, their relationship was built on sinking sand.
First, Jada is married but at the time separated! - Naturally, this would cause anyone emotional turmoil.
Second, August is caring for his 4 nieces, after tragedy in his family, plus he's very unwell. He too has emotional turmoil and a need for physical support, given his health needs.
Now, it's likely Jada in some form played a motherly role to August (this is how they first began interacting with each other, right?), as the separation from her husband may have left a void and August was (emotionally) in a place where he likely needed a woman's support, given his family and health circumstances. These emotions became entangled, in other words, they were skewed and not a healthy place to form a new relationship. As we can see, it's now caused a lot of upset!
We can easily do this to ourselves ladies!
Here's the reason why we're not exempt?
We are to have a basic unawareness of our own exact personality, emotional and behaviour make-up. If we know we have a tendency to attach to others quickly, or we are aware that we miss details, how much better are we equipped to manage our work, home life and relationships?
Yes, we could still make mistakes but we can always come back to centre, because we have the proven facts via the personalty test results. This is what lets us know reliably what our natural tendencies are.
The question is...do you know your exact personality, emotional and behaviour make-up?